A great relationship is like sitting on the beach about to take your first sip of that cold long-awaited margarita. 

While on the surface, the start of a new relationship looks great but we both know that even though it may have been initiated by sharing laughs and common interests, those elements are not enough to withstand and expand into a great and long-lasting relationship. 

And if you’ve ever been in any relationship, you know relationships are WORK! 

Whether you’ve been to get together for three months or a handful of years, creating a deep connection and bond requires a willingness to be vulnerable.  

Here are a few key components that will help deepen your connection.   

#1  Take Responsibility

You and your man are both responsible for your own actions, your words, your choices. Sometimes our ego may feel embarrassed, sometimes we want to be right so bad it hurts, and other times we just do or say some stupid things. Take responsibility for ALL the things you bring to the table of your relationship. Nobody is perfect, and there’s nothing more attractive than someone who can admit their faults and continue to grow beyond them. 

Ask yourself: do you see the good in your man and what does for you, or do you find yourself only notice where he is not showing up? Are you recognizing the great qualities your relationship is offering, or do you find yourself wishing for more and not very feeling satisfied? 

Many times we miss the amazing things are happening in the moment because we are so caught up in our head over analyzing. This week I challenge you stop and see what is good in your man and your relationship. 

#2  Realizing everyone’s relationship is NOT YOUR RELATIONSHIP

It’s easy to compare ourselves to our girlfriends relationships and assume that from the outside it looks perfect and smooth. I use to do this all the time which would cause me to doubt and question my own relationship. It’s important to remember that not all relationships are the same nor does everyone reveal what’s going on behind closed doors. The more you can focus on your relationship and the natural progress that is occurring the less you’ll find yourself judging your relationship and your man. 

And of course,

#3  BE CONFIDENT

Confidence is the number #1 sexiest trait a woman can possess. 

When you choose to embody confidence, anything is possible. Trusting not only yourself, but the greatness that is YOUR relationship, allows you to show up present in every moment. 

When you communicate confidently, it creates space for your man to feel that he can provide for you. These actions demonstrate that you are confident within yourself, which men go CRAZY for. 

Own your emotions and avoid the emotional drama of blaming, criticizing and complaining. Create a dynamic that is open and honest so that your man learns he can trust and rely on you. He in return will open up and share his feelings. You will give him confidence in you and your ability to handle uncomfortable situations and have confidence in the relationship. 

While these characteristics are a great way to allow your relationship to grow most importantly remember your relationship is your own! 

Allow yourself to be grateful for its uniqueness, in all the amazing and all the quirks! 

Do you have questions you’d like answers to regarding your current dating experiences? 

Perhaps you’ve been dating a guy for awhile and wondering how to take it to the next level of commitment, or wondering how to tell if this guy is the one for you?

Jump on the phone with me for a complimentary Let’s Talk Love where you’ll gain insight and tools you apply immediately to transform your love life.