I bet you know women who seem to draw men to them like bees to honey. They aren’t necessarily the most beautiful women you know, either. But for some magical reason, they’ve got men dropping for them left and right! And they seem to be having fun with dating.

Have you ever looked in the mirror and wondered why you aren’t getting as much attention? You’re beautiful, smart and successful. Why aren’t you attracting more high-quality men?

There are a few simple strategies that are really effective when it comes to attracting great guys and having fun along the way.

While men certainly appreciate beauty, smarts, and ambition…deep down we all want to be able to kick back and have fun with the person we choose to spend our life with.

In fact…one of the most common traits men say they want in a woman is “FUN!”. You’ve probably noticed this while reading dating profiles!

Here are a few tips to make you stand out among other women and have fun with the men you date:

#1 Approach Dating With The Intention Of Having A BLAST

As you get older, it’s easy to get kind of serious and less spontaneous. You may even look at dating as “husband-hunting”. Men can feel this energy from you and will put a damper on your dating experience! Instead of approaching dating with the mindset of “husband-hunting”, approach it with the intention of having a ton of fun and getting to know various people along the way!

Look for guys who want to try new things. Go on dates that sound exciting and make your heart race. On the first several dates with a guy, let go of any pressure and expectations and go simply to have a good time. Men love being around women who know how to enjoy themselves and have fun!

#2 Choose Active, Interactive or Engaging Date Activities

When a man asks you what you want to do, try to steer away from “dinner and a movie”. Once in a while, a movie can be a great way to unwind together, but especially in the early stages of a relationship, you want activities that give you the opportunity to get to know each other. Here are some creative date ideas that are fun, interactive, and engaging:

• Geocaching
• Mini Golfing
• Paint Nite
• Campfire, foil dinners, and s’mores in a nearby outdoor location
• Wine tasting at a winery somewhere scenic
• Kite flying
• Going to the zoo or animal sanctuary
• Fancy picnic on a high rooftop
• Hiking to see the sunrise/sunset
• Snorkelling
• Stargazing and an outdoor movie 
• Fruit picking or check out a Local Farmers Market
• Dancing or taking a dance class
• Ice fishing
• Museum Touring,  Art Gallery,  or Art Exhibit
• Horseback riding or visiting an animal shelter
• Arcade
• Bowling and pizza
• Volunteering at your local organization

There are endless possibilities! Get creative, find similar interests and have FUN.

#3 Never Bash Other Women Or Men

Don’t waste any time on your dates bashing previous boyfriends, other women or anyone. Doing so will make you appear insecure and negative. Men don’t like to be around women who are catty or who tear other people down to make themselves look better. This type of toxic behaviour translates into being insecure – the opposite of the most desired trait men are looking for in a woman. Negative comments can kill the mood quickly, so be intentional with your words!

#4 Dress Comfortably

Whatever you choose to wear, make sure it’s something comfortable! Wearing clothes that feel tight, restricting, inflexible or that you have to adjust constantly will drive you crazy and make you less likely to have a good time. They may also make you less spontaneous if a fun opportunity or idea comes up! Feeling worried about your clothes also makes it harder to be confident and feminine. So dress comfortably to feel like yourself and be able to focus on having fun with your date.

#5 You Don’t Need Alcohol To Have Fun

A drink over dinner is fine, but don’t load up on drinks. This is unattractive, especially on a first or second date. When you rely on alcohol to relax or have a good time you may start believing that you can’t be yourself without sipping on something. Instead, start to trust yourself that you are enough just the way you are even in those awkward moments.

Remember, he wants to get to know YOU…the real you. You are sexy, attractive, confident, and fun! 

At the end of the day, relax. Be yourself. Let go of pressure and expectations. Allow yourself to have fun with dating and getting  to know great guys. Be present. Be your authentic self. You’ve got this!!

If you’re struggling with the dating scene, feel discouraged or hopeless, or want to take your dating life to the next level but don’t know how, I encourage you to schedule a free 30-min “Let’s Talk Love” clarity call with me.

I would love to provide you with a customized plan that will boost your self-confidence. By the end of the session, you will have received practical tools to have fun again with dating and ways to transform your love life.

Because you deserve that dream relationship you have been waiting for!

But in order to create something you’ve never had, you need to do something you’ve never done. 🙂

– Nicole