In today’s society, women have grown accustomed to functioning in their masculine energy. This masculine energy, which is a linear, goal-oriented, results-driven, make shit happen kind of attitude, is great for most aspects of life but can be detrimental to our love life. So what does it mean to have feminine energy, and why is it important?

We misinterpret this femininity as weak and needy rather than recognize its power, beauty and strength.

But how is the “get it done” masculine energy so harmful to our love lives? Like magnetic poles, two of the same energies, masculine & masculine, naturally repel one another.

Don’t get me wrong, being an independent woman is empowering, and we should be proud of who we are and how far we have come. However, like all things in life, we need to strike a balance.

We Unconsciously Push Men Away if we…

If we convince ourselves that the only way to be really independent is to adopt a No man is going to pay for my dinner or hold open doors for me, I can do that myself. I don’t need to be taken care of kind of attitude; then we run the risk of giving off an energy that men perceive as cold, emasculating and abrasive.

We need to give men more credit; not all are walking around in an air of superiority. They know women aren’t all damsels waiting in distress for them to come to rescue us. That said, man’s role throughout history and evolution has been to be a provider and protector for his woman; it is a deep seeded instinct within him.

Ultimately, guys want to make you happy by fulling your needs and desires, if we can learn to let them.

This desire to take care of his woman manifests in many different ways; even without a romantic connection, men seem driven by the same code of ethics when it comes to women.

Examples of How Men Will Try to Take Care of You

1. Wanting to grab something off the shelf for you at the grocery store
2. Wanting to help carry something heavy for you (suitcase, box, groceries, a bag)
3. Opening the door (of a building, a car), pulling out the chair for you,
4. Helping you put on your jacket, holding the umbrella
5. Carry your coffee to the table
6. Offering to drive you to your car, even though it’s 3 blocks away

When a man does this, he isn’t thinking, “You obviously need me, your a weak female” he is simply deferring to his inner caregiver. A simple thank you for his offer makes a man feel appreciated and acknowledged for his gallantry.

It can be hard as women to see them as gestures of care and not an attack on our ability to take care of ourselves. The key is to receive these gestures with warmth, appreciation and a huge smile; after all, if you thought you did something nice and got scowled at, you wouldn’t feel validated either.

So the next time a gentleman offers you his seat, take it gracefully, no one has ever appeared needy or weak when they accept gestures of kindness with a smile.

Tap into the feminine energy and let go of the ego that runs so quick to offence.

Focus instead on your feminine energy, the warm smile that radiates from your soul, the soft way you float down the street, and your eyes level with those who pass by; you’ll start to see a difference in how people receive you.

-Nicole