Have you been guilty of putting someone on a pedestal? (More specifically, someone that you’re dating.) Have you ever found yourself worrying whether you’re good enough for a guy you’re interested in? It’s a common trap that many women fall into. I know for me, it was something I had to consciously work on, in order to break free from that way of thinking.

When you put a man on a pedestal and constantly seek validation from him, you’re giving away your power and putting yourself in a weak position. This can lead to a cycle of chasing, waiting, and accepting crumbs of attention from men who don’t truly appreciate you.

And guess what?

Men can sense when you lack confidence and power, which can actually make you less attractive to them.

Ouch, right?! That used to be so hard for me to hear.

But what if we flipped the script?

But what if we flipped the script? There’s no need to be putting someone on a pedestal!

Instead of questioning whether you’re good enough for him, start asking yourself if he’s good enough for you. By shifting the focus to your own worth and value, you exude confidence that is incredibly attractive to men. When you know your own worth, you won’t settle for less than you deserve.

It can be a daunting shift to make, but trust me, it’s worth it. When you approach dating with the mindset of knowing your own value, setting boundaries, and not being afraid to walk away from the wrong men, you’ll start attracting the right kind of guy –someone who treats you well, respects you, and loves you for who you are.

Here are a few questions that I offer my clients to help them gain personal clarity as they navigate the dating scene. Be as honest as you can with yourself…

1. How does this person make me feel about myself? Do they lift me up and make me feel confident and valued, or do they bring me down and make me question my worth?
2. Are our values and goals aligned? Do we share similar beliefs, interests, and visions for the future?
3. How do they communicate with me? Do they listen actively, communicate openly and honestly, and respect my thoughts and feelings?
4. Can I be my authentic self around them? Do I feel comfortable and accepted for who I truly am, without having to pretend or change to fit their expectations?

So, are you ready to take back your power and start attracting the right kind of man into your life?

Let’s chat and make it happen.

You deserve to be with someone who values and cherishes you for exactly who you are.

You may enjoy some of my other blog posts: Stop Settling for Less, Emotional Connection with a Man, and Improve your Communication with Men.