Getting attached too soon can happen so easily. That rush of excitement when you first meet someone and the whirlwind of emotions that follow can make things unfold faster than they should.

You’re definitely not alone in that.

I totally get it. I’ve so been there…even when I know better…

We all crave that connection, that feeling of being wanted and understood. It’s human nature to seek out companionship. But sometimes we can end up attaching ourselves prematurely to someone who may not be on the same page.

And that can sting.

Maybe you’ve met someone, sparks fly, and suddenly, you’re daydreaming about your future together. But then reality hits, and you realize you barely know this person. Ugh.

I remember going on three dates with this cute guy who I thought was great. I then found myself planning a future camp trip with him, wanting to introduce him to a few friends and even picturing myself in a long-term relationship with him. And this was only after 3 dates!

My mind got so ahead of me that I wasn’t present to what was actually showing up. I was unconsciously investing significant emotional energy into a future relationship. I was thinking of him often and anxiously waiting for his text messages or the next date to happen.

All this energy directed at him caused me to get attached too soon and led to major disappointment. In the Confident in Love program (a hybrid of private and group coaching), we explore how to manage our emotions and what realistic expectations can be set at each of the stages of dating.

Getting Attached Too Soon

Investing emotional energy into someone too soon is risky when you don’t know where they stand. You may discover that he is not ready or willing to reciprocate your feelings. It’s like putting all your eggs in one basket without considering if that basket is sturdy enough to hold them.

It’s so easy to get caught up in the fantasy of what could be and ignore all the red flags. Needless to say, it doesn’t end well.

These past experiences can teach you important lessons about pacing yourself and keeping your emotions in check. At least until you truly know where things are headed or who this person really is.

By taking things slow and not rushing into attachment, you’re giving yourself the gift of clarity. You’re allowing the relationship to develop naturally without the pressure of unrealistic expectations weighing it down.

And ultimately, isn’t that what we all want? A genuine connection built on a solid foundation of trust and understanding.

As you navigate the world of dating, I encourage you to keep this in mind.

Take your time, enjoy the journey, and don’t be afraid to pump the brakes if things start moving too quickly.

Your heart will thank you for it in the long run.

The best way to prevent myself getting attached too soon is to surround myself with good friends. Friends that help me stay true to myself and not jump into things too fast.

Inside the Confident in Love program, you have me and the other women in the community to support you as you navigate the world of dating.

You may find some of my other blog posts helpful: The Effects of Putting Someone on a Pedestal, Improve your Communication with Men, and How to Know When you Meet the Right Man.