How can I make myself more irresistible to him…?
There’s a fine line between being confident, sexy, and irresistible…and coming across as desperate or anxious.
Many women struggle to know the difference and unknowingly push the good guys away because they are projecting the wrong energy. I was guilty of this in my dating experience.
Not sure if you are showing desperate or anxious behaviors? Here are a few signs:
- Men are treating you hot and cold
- You are constantly analyzing what they say and do
- You are giving a lot…gifts, your time, your energy, favors…usually unreciprocated
- You are sacrificing your time with friends and family
- You always make yourself available for him
- You text him a lot
- You are the one initiating every time
- You’re afraid to communicate your needs
- You don’t tell him when he hurts your feelings
- You complain/focus a lot on how you’re single
In order to make yourself more irresistible to him and create a high-quality, fulfilling, long term relationship…it is important to build up your self-worth., and come from a place of balance when you begin dating someone.
If you recognize some desperate/anxious behaviors in yourself, I’ve compiled a few tips for you. Hey, we all come off as clingy sometimes! It’s only human. Don’t beat yourself up, just focus on improving. Ultimately, becoming the most confident and capable version of yourself is going to change every area of your life, not only dating.
5 Ways to be More Irresistible
#1 Focus More Energy On Becoming Your Best Self
With online dating, it’s easy to spend hours swiping and chatting with potential suitors. When you really want to find “your person”, you may be tempted to spend most of your spare time swiping and chatting. But this isn’t necessarily going to bring you closer to your dream romance.
Shifting your energy to things that will make you a better version of yourself will not only lead to higher confidence, better self-esteem, and happiness…but will help you put out the kind of energy that will attract the RIGHT men into your life. Not to mention, avoiding the potential of burning out from online dating.
This will look different for everyone. It might mean spending more time on your health. It might mean taking a few online courses or doing something big to advance in your career. It might mean planning some weekend local getaways or day trips, picking up a new hobby, serving at a non-profit or charity, or any number of things that you will uplift your soul and make you a better person.
When you naturally feel good others around you will feel that energy and be drawn to you.
#2 Stop Making It About “Me”
Do you find yourself focusing on yourself a lot during a date or in a relationship?
“What does he think of me?”
“Does he hate what I said?”
“Is he interested in me?” “
“Is he going to text me back?”
“Is he thinking of me?”
“Will he reject me?”
These kinds of thoughts pull all your energy inward, create anxiety and panic, and make you disconnect. Instead of constantly thinking about “me me me”, focus outward. Stop worrying about this or that. Shift your mindset and attention to ask good questions, and listen.
#3 Let Go Of Your Expectations
Do you ever start talking with a guy, feel a real connection, and start imagining a future with him? Or picture what your first date will be like? Or picture him as your boyfriend or husband? High expectations set you up for disappointment. And it can also make you jump the gun before a relationship can progress organically.
Choose to have a present, fun experience with another person, without attachment to any particular outcome. This will give you more freedom to be yourself and simply have a good time. Expectations can make you act awkwardly, so choose to focus on being unattached will help you to be authentic and have a good experience.
#4 Avoid Clearing Your Schedule
Having a full, interesting, ambitious life is incredibly attractive to good men! The right guy will enhance your already full life, not replace it. You don’t need to drop everything anytime a guy asks you out. Give him some dates that work for you without sacrificing anything in your normal schedule. It’s totally okay to make him wait a week! It shows independence and confidence when you have things to do with your time.
#5 Don’t Be A Chameleon
The best thing you have to offer the world (and your ideal man) is your authentic, true self. Don’t change who you are to try and please whoever you’re with. Don’t be afraid of sharing your real opinions. Be 100% organic YOU even if it is scary. Don’t give up dreams, hobbies, or talents just because they aren’t something your partner likes. High-quality men are obsessed with authentic women who aren’t afraid to be true to themselves.
It doesn’t matter where you grew up, what you do for a living, what you look like, or what you have been through in the past. You are capable of being irresistible to him, without sacrificing any bit of who you are. Instead of focusing on what you think men want, focus on being true to yourself and revealing your inner beauty and poise.
There is no need to be desperate or anxious. You are worthy of true, lasting, fulfilling love.
And as you continue to do the tough inner work, you will attract the man who is meant for you.
5 Best Ways To Be Irresistible And Not Desperate or Anxious
Apr 20, 2022