Being emotionally available to yourself and having your own back when dating (and at all times in your life) is imperative to your emotional safety, wellbeing, and happiness.
In order to take care of yourself emotionally, you need to identify when it’s necessary for you to take a stand for yourself, communicate your feelings, get clarity, and set firm boundaries.
One way to know if it’s necessary to speak up for yourself is by gaging your feelings. Anytime you feel unsafe, sad, mad, offended, disrespected, hurt, scared, jealous, or otherwise negative,
- Dismiss your feelings
- Suppress your feelings
- Sweep things under the rug
- Avoid conflict and confrontation
- Create false hope that your negative feelings will magically disappear and resolve themselves
What you want to do instead is COMMUNICATE your feelings with the man you’re dating – and do so gracefully, of course.
This is a crucial skill that most people lack and that’s why the lack of communication – or the lack of healthy communication – is one of the TOP reasons why relationships fail to come to fruition or fail to last.
A man who’s reasonably healthy, emotionally available and receptive will receive your communication and respond to your feelings with care; otherwise, he’s not worth it.
By sharing your negative feelings, you’re being emotionally available to yourself, standing up for yourself, and showing both of you that you’re worthy of getting your wants and needs met.(You must do this if you want to be treated and respected as a high-value woman by men.)
If you want to be heard with empathy and understood and you want to inspire him – as best as humanly possible – to give you what you want, then you must learn how to:
- Communicate your feelings authentically vulnerably, clearly, honestly, directly, effectively, gracefully AND
- Set firm, healthy boundaries
Remember….if you never speak up about your negative feelings, then chances are you’ll suffer again in silence for years, and you just can’t keep choosing that painful road anymore if you want to attract the right man and make things work with him.
And the truth is, implementing what I’m speaking of can feel really challenging or uncomfortable. And yet, I know you don’t want to continue to be silent or pretend everything is good when in fact something is bothering you.
If you’re SINGLE and dating (or planning on dating soon), you’re ready to make a BIG change, and you know you need help with honing these skills so you can attract the BEST man and relationship possible, then talk to me.
Book a complimentary Let’s Talk Love Call and I’ll help you to start feeling confident in your love life AND ensure you’re being emotionally available to yourself!
Being Emotionally Available to Yourself
Feb 21, 2023