A lot of women I meet have hard feelings against the male population. Hey, I understand! There are hoards of low-quality men out there, and you’ve likely experienced pain and heartbreak because of their immaturity and inability to treasure you the way you deserve.
After being thrown around the dating and relationship game enough, it’s easy to want to throw in the towel. But then you see that happy old couple just smiling on a park bench together. Or the power couple in your neighborhood that still flirts with each other even though they’ve been married 10 years and have 3 kids. Or the handsome man at the gym who only has eyes for his wife. And your heart feels longing.
My clients come to me because they want to know if a fulfilling, lasting, joyful, and strong relationship is possible for them. They’ve put years of work into their personal growth. They don’t “need” a man. But they want a partner. They want someone to love and be loved by, someone to fill the space in their home with more laughter and companionship.
The good news is…there ARE high-quality, trust-worthy, emotionally intelligent men out there who are still available!
In the face-paced online dating world where courtship seems a thing of the past, it might feel like they are needles in a haystack. But instead of digging through every piece of smelly hay, there are more effective things you can do.
Here are a few of the beliefs I had to understand about men in order to change my dating life, create space to attract a truly high-quality man, and eventually settle into a long-term romance with him.
1: Men can be both masculine and capable of vulnerability.
You want to attract, date, and marry a man who stands confident in HEALTHY masculinity and who is emotionally available/vulnerable. Yes, men ARE capable of both!! Society continues to poison our young boys into thinking they must be the toughest and most powerful in the room to be a man. But true masculinity is protective, holds space for the feminine to thrive, can be both fierce and gentle, and wants to stand side by side with the feminine.
Demand for yourself a man who has done the work to become emotionally intelligent, humble, kind, and who can hold space for you to feel SAFE and CREATIVE and LOVED.
2: A man’s deepest desire is to be trusted and understood.
Men long to be trusted and understood. I know once you’ve been hurt, or after being hurt multiple times, it is hard to trust another man with your heart. And you certainly shouldn’t entrust just any man with your heart!
But once you do learn to attract high-quality, honorable, and trustworthy men, it’s important that you are able to open the door to your heart for them. It’s important that you’ve done the inner healing to know that the right man will protect your heart with his life.
3: Your magic is in your feminine.
We all have both feminine and masculine energy in us. As a woman, when you date from your masculine space, you actually attract weaker, beta males. You might be confused when, as a successful and powerful woman, you keep ending up with guys who are content to sit back and let you pick up the tab every time (not just financially, but emotionally).
It’s not because you’re successful – it’s because you’re dating in your masculine energy. When you step confidently into your feminine energy, you will exude the kind of beauty and majesty that only a woman possesses. And you will attract completely different guys (the ones you want).
Not sure how to do that exactly? Schedule a free consultation with me, and I’ll provide with you some practical strategies.
Don’t give up yet, love. He is still out there. 🙂
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