Getting rejected in dating hurts. No matter how many times it happens, each rejection stings. So how do we deal with it?

Love is a strange and powerful thing. It requires our vulnerability, but offering our vulnerability doesn’t always end in love. A series of rejections can lead us to feel like we’re doing something wrong.

An example of rejection could be not getting the match you wanted on a swipe. Maybe you didn’t receive a response to your messages. Perhaps you’re ghosted by a guy you were having a really nice conversation with online. Or you went on a really nice date, only to hear afterwards he didn’t feel a connection… These are all painful stings of rejection.

These stings can weaken our self-esteem. They make us wonder what we did wrong and can shake our confidence. Which makes us less confident about putting ourselves out there again.

If you can relate, then it’s time you redefined rejection as protection.

Getting Rejected in Dating

Our desire for love and connection can blind us. We have to remember that not everyone we like is the best fit for us.

When someone doesn’t respond to your message try viewing it as a perfectly acceptable difference in opinion. While you were open to him, he simply wasn’t feeling a connection with you. Rather than dragging you along for weeks (if not months), you were protected from wasted time.

That doesn’t mean you aren’t valuable, beautiful, and talented.

You are all of these things and more.

It just means you weren’t right for each other.

A lot of women who struggle with confidence in their authentic selves also struggle with rejection. They see it as a problem with themselves rather than protection against a bad situation. Or different people being free to have different preferences.

It’s normal for rejection to feel painful. It’s normal to be frustrated when you get ghosted. And perfectly ok when someone you enjoyed doesn’t feel the same in return.

But that doesn’t make you any less wonderful, lovable, and amazing.

Here is a couple of journal prompts to help you get over and redefine rejection:

• What false stories are you creating in response to this rejection?
• What are two positive possible outcomes due to this rejection?

If you’re struggling to get over rejection after a dating knock-back, then jump on a complimentary Let’s Talk Love call. You’ll receive personal insight into your love life and will learn tangible tools you can apply immediately.

Or check out some of my other blog posts: Improve Your Communication with Men, Stop Settling for Less, or How to Know When You Meet the Right Man.