Are you feeling vulnerable in your dating life? Or maybe you see being vulnerable as a weakness?
Did you know that when it comes to dating or being in a relationship, vulnerability can actually be a strength?
When you’re vulnerable in a relationship, you’re showing your partner your true self and allowing yourself to be seen and accepted for who you really are. It might feel a bit scary, even uncomfortable, to be vulnerable, but it’s crucial for building trust and intimacy with the person you’re dating or with your partner.
I’m feeling vulnerable. Why is that a good thing?
- It builds trust: When you’re vulnerable with your date, you’re showing them that you trust them enough to let your guard down. You’re not trying to be someone else in order to impress them. It can be tempting to want to come across as the “cool girl” or who you think they want you to be. Instead, be your true self and allow them to see the real you, even the quirky side. This will help build trust in the relationship, as your date sees that you’re willing to be authentic and confident in who you are.
- It fosters intimacy: Intimacy is all about being emotionally and physically close to someone. But in order to do that, you have to get honest with yourself and tune into what you are feeling. And instead of bottling up your emotions, be open and honest with your partner about how you feel. Sharing your feelings creates a deeper connection and lets the other person really see into your heart.
- It promotes communication: Being vulnerable requires honest and open communication. Being vulnerable with your date will lead to meaningful conversations and a deeper understanding of each other. Many times we hold back from communicating our feelings and expect our date to recognize when our mood or behaviour shifts. We assume that they should know what to do to make us feel better. Sharing your thoughts, opinions, and feelings will create a gateway for your date or partner to communicate what matters to them but also reveals what’s important to you.
You are worth being seen and heard.
Take the risk
Be courageous and allow yourself to be vulnerable!
I know that being vulnerable may not come naturally, and that’s ok. It takes practice to show up as our true self and express what we are feeling. Learning to trust yourself and the person you’re with requires establishing healthy boundaries and acknowledging what you need to feel emotionally safe.
If you’re like, “Nicole this something I struggle with…” then book a “Let’s Talk Love” call and I’ll share some practical tools and insights that I share with my private clients.
Are you feeling vulnerable? That’s a good thing!
Jun 28, 2023